This is the question I asked my 89 year old Granny when we picked her up at her assisted living facility recently:
What is it like to live in a large Assisted Living Facility?
She said, “It’s like living in a hotel. They take care of everything for you. They prepare your meals and even bring them to you if you want. They clean your rooms. They even have nurses to take care of you when you’re sick. But, I still feel like I am on my own.
When I go in my apartment and shut the door, I can do what I want, when I want. Oh, there are plenty of activities and entertainment if I want to go. They even have a bus to take you to doctor’s appointments or shopping or out to lunch. If you can’t live at home alone anymore, this is the best place to be.”
My husband and I were full-time caregivers for Granny, for almost two years before she moved to an assisted living facility. We found that just like most caregivers we reached a milestone in terms of caring for her about a year ago. The feeling occurred after several incidents of her exhibiting resentful behavior. Over a period of time we were struck by the thought: “Even helping as much as we can, we are genuinely concerned about her well-being and our own.”
If you’ve experienced this feeling, it’s important to be honest with yourself on behalf of whomever you care for. It’s time to assess whether—or perhaps more accurately, when—Assisted Living is going to be a better option for you and your loved one.
Facilitating Granny’s move to an assisted living facility was a difficult time for all of us. But now we feel a profound sense of relief. We can move on with our lives, knowing she is well taken care of. We can even travel and have plenty of time for our grandkids.
Peace of mind is a true gift. If you are struggling with care giving for an aging loved one, contact us, we’d like to help.
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